During your divorce proceedings, it is important to move yourself into a proactive space and gain more control with your financial situation. If you have been working with your financial advisor on your post-divorce budget, you may realize that you need to supplement your income.
Now is the time to identify what careers you might be interested in and if you need to further your education level to succeed within your career choice to create a long-term plan for financial success.
Any financial support you may receive, whether it is through child support or alimony will have an end date, and you need to be prepared to carry your financial responsibilities on your own.
There are several salary calculators online and depending on your region and the city you live in, you can calculate the potential income for your desired career.
So, where to start? Start by rediscovering yourself.
#1: Rediscover Yourself
There is a mourning process and transition after divorce. That part of your life is over, and now you are moving forward with a new chapter of your life.
Everyone’s situation is different. Some people only need a part time job, while others need a full-time position with benefits. While others, have a job, but due to circumstances involving the divorce, they are miserable, and need a change.
Allow someone who knows you very well to interview you and through this personal interview process. Discover what skills you have and what you would like to do. Think of these items when identifying and creating your list.
Identify your skill sets
Skill sets can be broad, and the list can be long. Take your time and think about everything you can do in a job setting. This can also involve tasks that are done at home such as organization and financial duties. Do not leave anything out.
#2 Overcoming Fears
For those that have not worked in a while, going back into the work force can be scary but very beneficial. Work provides a social interaction that may not have been prevalent during the marriage. Social interactions help build confidence, and this is needed after a divorce.
There is a real fear of technology for those that have been out of the workforce for some time. If this is where you are at, now is the time to talk to some friends and family and discuss with them the technology that you should know before going into a job.
Google is a great resource to find out relevant and up and coming technology with specific careers. Also, YouTube has many How-To tutorials for novice users for almost anything.
The fear of failure can be debilitating. To help overcome this fear, speak with a career coach or a therapist if needed, and learn how to control your fears. Many people have some fear or anxiety when starting a new job. Do not let it control you and inhibit you from moving forward with your life.
Right skill set
Every job has a required skill set. Do not apply for jobs that are beyond your abilities. Search for the ones that you can be successful and grow with while increasing your skillset and education level.
For some, this will be the first time in a while they are stepping back into the work force after being a stay at home mom. Balancing this new life can be stressful, but if you have family nearby, rely on them to help with the children if they are able too. Reach out to other moms that can help with carpools and if need be and investigate child care or afterschool care. Sometimes there are jobs that are homebased, if you feel very adamant about staying home, this could be the path for you to research.
#3 Identify and Assess What Your Likes and Dislikes
What do you like to do?
Imagine if you could do any job position, what would it include? Working with children, animals or computers? It is just as important to know what you do not want to do. Create a pro and con list of job positions. Be realistic and honest with yourself. Now is the time to truly look deep and figure out what makes you happy and how to obtain that goal.
During this search, you may want to branch out with possible entrepreneurship if this is something you have always wanted to do and start your own business.
What job would be the best fit
Now that you have identified your skill set and made a list of jobs that sound really appealing, what fits? You can do this by searching the internet. Utilize the internet to help you search for jobs that are available in your area.
If you are unsure about what you want to do, and would like to further your education, consider applying for an admin job at a local university or junior college. They have strong programs that allow employees to take classes for free and they can expand their education and advance at work.
#4 Researching Potential Careers
The internet is a great source to use when searching for a job. There are many job sites that help you find employment near you, such as:
You can also use Temp Agencies and don’t forget about LinkedIn. LinkedIn is a valuable resource that will help you find and a job and connect with other professionals. Also, talk with your family and friends. They may know of companies that are hiring. Many cities hold career fairs. If you attend a career fair, dress to impress and bring an updated resume.
While searching for jobs, do some investigation. Glassdoor not only helps you find employment, but you are able to read reviews of existing or past employees for that company.
You may not land your dream job right out of the gate, but it is best to place yourself in an entry level position where you can grow. Or you can learn if this is what you want to do before investing money on education.
#5 Prepare Yourself for the Workforce
If you have been in the workforce, now is the time to update your resume and if you are new to the workforce, there are templates available online and within Microsoft Word to help you create one. If you need assistance creating a resume, there are a lot of free online resources to use, some examples include: * Resume Builder * Resume Genius * Resume Coach
Email and phone are the most common forms of communication from employer to potential employees. If you do not have a professional email, such as your name, now is the time to create one. Ensure you have a working phone with a voicemail that is set up, so if an employer does call, they can reach you or leave a message.
When preparing for an interview, some sites, like indeed.com, have interviewing tips. If you are nervous, practice with a friend or family member. The more comfortable you become, the more confident you will feel during the actual interview.
Another avenue of communication is social media. LinkedIn is a powerful social media tool. It is an online resume and networking platform. Take your time and if you do not have a profile, create one with as much pertinent information about yourself, your education and job experiences.
Clean up your other social media platforms like Facebook. Review your posts to ensure there is nothing inappropriate or offensive or nothing has been shared on your timeline from other people that could be inappropriate. Employers have been known to make decisions based on your social media portfolio.
When you do come across a potential job that you would like to apply for, review the job descriptions. If the job requires extensive travel, you will most likely travel. If you are a single mom, a traveling job may not be the best fit for you. Only apply to jobs that will fit into your new life style.
Remember, it is never too late to go back to school and there are so many opportunities to go back to school without going to a brick and mortar building. Many schools have complete online programs offering online degrees or classes where they meet one day a week. UCLA has a paralegal program through the extension program. You do not have to be a full-time registered student. Below are some colleges that offer a variety of educational levels, degrees and certifications.
- Undergraduate Majors
- Bachelor's Degree for Professionals
- Graduate Programs
Cal State Northridge
- Academic Programs
Cal State Channel Islands
- Graduate Programs
- Undergraduate Programs
- Certificate Programs
- Associate Degrees & Certificates List
- Career & Technical Education
Remember, some colleges or universities offers discounted or free schooling for employees and often for their children. If you work for a college, and it offers free tuition for your children, it is one less expense you would need to save for.
Once you get into the workplace, establish your career, and meet all your immediate short-term needs, you can focus on saving for retirement. First and foremost, build your emergency fund, which consists of at least 6 months of funds to cover expenses. Once that is set, you can then start to contribute to a retirement plan.
It is important to reinvent yourself, get employment and get a social life